Your Choice, YOUR Responsibility
August 28th 2007 14:55
I suppose that this is some kind of rant. It's not my first, and is probably far from my last.
A young lady where I work has recently managed to get herself pregnant. Now, there was a young man involved who she knows and he now knows that the kid is his. He's decided to stick around and do the responsible thing. Admirable. However, there is something happening that we at work are starting to get sick of.
The pregnant woman. She tends to happen quite often.
Her behaviour at the moment is degenerating into something more approaching the child that she is having rather than remaining at the level of a fully grown woman. And to tell the truth, we are starting to get sick of it. We are getting sick of her talking down to us like we were her kids. Admittedly, at the start we thought she was simply practising on us so she'd know how to do it right but it is wearing quite thin indeed. We are getting exceptionally sick of her tyrannical dictatorship on the subject of lunch. Her habit of simply telling someone on their way to lunch that they cannot go because she is going has frayed our nerves. We are none of us pleased that there are two months next year that none of us can go on holidays (in retail there are already ALOT of times when you can't get a holiday) myself more than others because me and Nata wanted to be married around then. We have indeed had more than enough of her attitude with us.
Now, before you think I am some kind of woman hating christian, please read the next few lines. I do respect women. My mother is one and so is Natalie. What I do not respect is the attitude of an individual who after having been spoken to about the way that she speaks to us and acts towards us is "I don't care." So I assume you can see where I come from on this one. Trying to reason with someone that does not wish to reason with anyone is reasonably impossible.
Do I understand that she is going through a hard time? Yes. I won't say that I understand exactly what she is going through (what man could say this?) but hey, we all have times when life kicks us somewhere soft and we all know one wonderful thing.
You don't take it out on people that had nothing to do with it.
Did we get her drunk/excited and force her to have sex? Nope. Was she forced? Nope. Was it her choice to do it? One assumes so, yes. If not, then get help. See a counsellor. Take time away from work to get yourself sorted out, for the sake of your child PLEASE do this.
But back to the point.
What would YOU do in this situation? What do you think of this entire mess?
JZ
A young lady where I work has recently managed to get herself pregnant. Now, there was a young man involved who she knows and he now knows that the kid is his. He's decided to stick around and do the responsible thing. Admirable. However, there is something happening that we at work are starting to get sick of.
The pregnant woman. She tends to happen quite often.
Her behaviour at the moment is degenerating into something more approaching the child that she is having rather than remaining at the level of a fully grown woman. And to tell the truth, we are starting to get sick of it. We are getting sick of her talking down to us like we were her kids. Admittedly, at the start we thought she was simply practising on us so she'd know how to do it right but it is wearing quite thin indeed. We are getting exceptionally sick of her tyrannical dictatorship on the subject of lunch. Her habit of simply telling someone on their way to lunch that they cannot go because she is going has frayed our nerves. We are none of us pleased that there are two months next year that none of us can go on holidays (in retail there are already ALOT of times when you can't get a holiday) myself more than others because me and Nata wanted to be married around then. We have indeed had more than enough of her attitude with us.
Now, before you think I am some kind of woman hating christian, please read the next few lines. I do respect women. My mother is one and so is Natalie. What I do not respect is the attitude of an individual who after having been spoken to about the way that she speaks to us and acts towards us is "I don't care." So I assume you can see where I come from on this one. Trying to reason with someone that does not wish to reason with anyone is reasonably impossible.
Do I understand that she is going through a hard time? Yes. I won't say that I understand exactly what she is going through (what man could say this?) but hey, we all have times when life kicks us somewhere soft and we all know one wonderful thing.
You don't take it out on people that had nothing to do with it.
Did we get her drunk/excited and force her to have sex? Nope. Was she forced? Nope. Was it her choice to do it? One assumes so, yes. If not, then get help. See a counsellor. Take time away from work to get yourself sorted out, for the sake of your child PLEASE do this.
But back to the point.
What would YOU do in this situation? What do you think of this entire mess?
JZ
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Comment by Winston
Small Thoughts on Big Questions
Comment by hewhocutsdown
My wife worked right up until the week before birth, and only the last few days were really pushing things too far. She and her colleagues worked out an arrangement that worked for them, and generally speaking things went smoothly. It helped when someone needed to jump in for a customer when my wife suddenly had to cry uncontrollably; a somewhat awkward situation in sales.
So both sides need to give, be reasonable and understanding to the other.
Comment by Glenys
Phonics
The lady is obviusly going through a bad time. Perhaps a meeting of all parties concerned where everyone can air their views is in order. The beginning of pregnancy is but the beginning of the rest of her life as a Mum - eventually there will be the child. Whoever is in charge needs to communicate often with the lady and her colleagues to keep 'things' fair for all.
Remember: One day someone close to you may become pregnant and you will appreciate accommodating colleagues.
Comment by JoshZ
A Simple Christian
Winston, Jordan you guys have some good points. Pretty well the points that I agree with you one.
Glenys, you also raise a good point.
At the moment, over the past few days she's calmed down alot and been quite nice to work with. I think that for a few weeks, it was the shock, the strain, the chemical imbalances etc that threw her into Hilter mode. But hey, we didn't have any screaming matches, we didn't have any tantrums and everyone still has all their original number of fingers and toes. Which is a GOOD thing.
I'll keep everyone posted.
JZ